It’s high season, for a few days and for another ten days, there will be end-of-year school shows, conservatory concerts, dance or theater shows, exhibitions of plastic arts workshops, and then the fairs of schools, associations, certain neighborhoods or certain communities, you multiply all that by the number of children, nephews or nieces, children of friends, and you multiply again all by the number of activities or commitments made and you get an absolutely exhausting result where you have to make daily diary points, check rehearsal times three times, make sure the costumes are complete, until to the ankle bracelet of the youngest who plays the role of the fairy, to the plain colored t-shirt but above all without inscription for the school choir.
The different virtues of this rite of passage
Perhaps simply because it is a must in the life of parents? Yes it is indeed a question of passage I believe in this particular sequence, in the sense ofa great rite of passage. Of which we can unfold three major meanings.
- First of all, all these shows and fairs are the opportunity to meet and stage in a festive way the ties that unite us. To repeat together that we are not only isolated individuals, separate families, but that we belong to different, larger groups, which when they all overlap, describe the complexity of our sociability. And we have all the more pleasure in meeting to make the observation that the great separation of the summer is looming.
- This rite of passage transforms our relationship to time. The perpetual movement that brings these shows and fairs always to the same period, in the month of June, makes us tend towards a more cyclical and less linear experience of time. Because there is nothing more distressing than time passing and nothing more reassuring than time returning.
- Finally, if we parents continue to inflict such a tunnel of shows and parties on ourselves, it is also, I believe, because these are times when we can pretty much succeed in our mission impossible as parents. In her text entitled “The crisis of education”, the philosopher Hannah Arendt explains the contradiction inherent in any educational mission. Parents must indeed on the one hand preserve the world in order to be able to transmit it and at the same time give their children the means to destroy the old world so that they can invent their own. They must protect their children from the brutality of the world and at the same time let them emancipate themselves to face it on their own.. These shows and fairs thus constitute a possible framework for resolving this contradiction.
With these shows, children invent together away from their parents, but under the supervision of other adults, a world of their own creation. They become independent and risk facing the gaze of a wider public, but while remaining surrounded by the benevolence of other parents.. Moved, each parent then attends the first steps of their children in an enlarged world which already represents the roles that life has in store for them. Here are some reasons why we support all this, valiantly, and if you miss it, if you find that your month of June is a little light, I invite you to come and see my eldest son play his theater show – an adaptation of the three musketeers – June 22, 23 and 24 in Antony in the 92, all the details are on lefeufollet.fr… Frankly do not hesitate!